Confession: I am a Blonde-a-holic

Editor in Chief Melissa Middleton's search for the perfect blonde | jenesequa.com

I can think of two, maybe three times in my entire life when I've been in love with my hair color. It's either too ashy, too platinum, too yellow, or too brassy. Most of my life I've been in search of the holy grail, the perfect blonde, or what I like to refer to it as: Rich Bitch Blonde. You know, the blonde that looks really expensive—the magical combination of cool and warm tones that looks flattering on basically everyone.  I’ve shopped around colorists from city to city, not getting the results I’ve hoped for. I thought I was close at times, but no cigar.

 You know you have a problem when a friend tells you “your hair looks REALLY good from here to here (pointing to mid hair length to end and not at the root). The physical signs of my blonde-a-holism are starting to show and I can’t get away with my problem anymore. As any therapist would say, if you are a “holic” of anything, seek out a support group and some therapy. So I did just that, well kind of. I conducted a survey with a subset of my 30 blonde friends—from Swedes, Northwesterners, to California girls, I wanted to test the waters—to see if I was alone.

Surprisingly, per my research, 40 percent of blondes are happy with their color, and 47 percent are “kinda” happy.  I really was looking for more no’s here ladies.

 Out of the people surveyed, more than 47 percent said that Blake Lively was their “blon-dole” (blonde-idol) and surprisingly only 27 percent said Gwyneth Paltrow! The other 26 percent were all over the place from Reese Witherspoon to Taylor Swift.

Melissa Middleton's blonde idols throughout the years | more on jenesequa.com

TIPS FOR THE PERFECT BLONDE

Achieving the perfect (to you) blonde is a work of art. Not every stylist has the patience, time, or training, and even the best of them don't always get it right. A few expert colorists (and my recent “dealer” of choice”) suggest a few simple tools you can use to achieve blonde nirvana, even between visits.

 Create a mood board of inspiration to give to your colorist. If they have any sense in them, he/she will suggest a) if the look can be achieved and how many visits it will take to get you there b) if it’s even the right color for your skin tone.

Open up to your colorist and tell them your history with your addiction. Tell them you turn orange before you turn blonde (in my case!) so they know to process you long enough. Hair stylists really are the best therapists.

In between visits, applying hair powder from the roots to the middle of the mane is a great way to intensify the blonde and cover up a bad root situation.

In case of emergency, Woolite mixed with shampoo is called a "French shampoo." Hair stylists use it when brunettes grab too dark or blonde toners are off. Not for recreational use, but great in a pinch!

Invest in a water filter for the shower. Most women don’t know that your hair absorbs the minerals in the water. Blondes are exceptionally porous and the minerals really show in the hair, turning it brassy and yellow and it effects the way the hair takes the color or doesn't take the color. Most blondes’ problems can be solved with a great water filter.

Use a color correcting conditioner, not shampoo. A lot of blondes use shampoos to keep the brassy tones out of their hair color, but shampoos are actually quite dehydrating. Instead, get the color conditioners, they have more pigment than the shampoo and will allow the hair to hold the tone better. I use Keune Color Care Conditioner for platinum blondes.

In closing, I will say that things are looking up. Two days in a row, I received compliments from strangers and acquaintances on my blonde. They said it was perfect.